As the holiday season unfolds, a myriad of emotions takes center stage. The cold weather, the shorter days, and the decrease in sunlight certainly play their part. However, beyond a chill in the air and waning daylight, deeper concerns might lurk beneath the surface.

The societal script dictates merry gatherings and joyful moments, yet many of us find themselves grappling with a different reality. The weight of social expectations looms large, especially for those navigating challenging circumstances. Financial strains, stemming from the pressure of gift-giving and various holiday expenses, cast shadows of worry over our pockets. The hustle and bustle of managing deadlines, orchestrating events, preparing lavish meals, or simply survival, fosters a constant feeling of being overstretched. Traffic and crowded spaces can cause significant unease. Family gatherings can transform into stress-inducing minefields, harboring unresolved conflicts and clashing personalities. Meanwhile, the ache of loneliness intensifies for those without a robust support network, exacerbated by comparisons to the idealized, picture-perfect holiday experiences relentlessly paraded in media.

On a more symbolic level, a year’s end brings forth a sense of time slipping away. It acts as a stark reminder of unmet goals and the fleeting nature of time itself. Our inner child has grown. As adults, we frequently find ourselves at odds with the youthful emotions that the holiday season can stir. This clash becomes evident when we face the harsh realities of “real-life problems,” whether they are our own challenges or those affecting people around us.

Amidst an already potent mix of emotions, this particular holiday season carries an additional burden, marred by pain, anger, guilt, and dissonance weighing on our minds, due to the conflicts and traumatic events surrounding us. Deciding whether to celebrate during tough times is personal. The holidays usually mean joy, but it’s okay if you’re not feeling it. Maybe think about what matters most to you right now. Celebrating might look different this year, like smaller gatherings or quiet moments to mark the occasion. One would argue that taking care of yourself and of loved ones is the main priority. At the end of the day, being kind to yourself and to others is what really counts, shaping this season into a pursuit of a balance that feels right for you.